This story takes place in New Zealand. I was thinking to myself and then discussed with a friend if i should choose family over friends and fun, as I will explain my situation it may be clear why i cant decide, My mother left my father when i was 14, she basically ruined his life, he did bring in all the money, he did as much house work as possible, he bought everything for my mother that she wanted and more-so, she left him because she is too greedy, my father offered to do all the house work plus bring in all the money and buy everything for his family to live happily and more-so, but she left and took half of everything, as you may know unless you win a lottery you cant pay off your morgage, and my father already had a large one then my mother left and took half of everything worth in monitary value, an even alot of other items from the house, he now has a huge loan, it is not possible for him to manage to pay this off in the next few years or even 20-30 years from now, my mother also when she left she told her side of the family that it was my fathers fault that she had to leave and depicted him as a bad person so none of her side of the family did contact in any way any more (beforehand we used to have at least one person from her side of the family come over each week!) so all of my fathers side of the family live here in the netherlands now he had no real reason to want to stay in New Zealand, the whole reason he was there was for his wife.. who left him and left him in debt for a whole lot, so i decided to go for a vist and meet my father side of the family and now im in the netherlands meeting them all, but i have hesitations to stay here for i had a job at a little place called spookers in new zealand and i had alot of friends and people who liked me and i enjoyed my job and i enjoyed all the fun times i had there with my friends. now i am forced to choose between family and friends&fun which do i choose, some people say friendship comes first and you can never replace a real friend, but some people say family comes first because you only have one and you cant make new ones as easy as you can friends, now i ask you which do i choose, a country with a shattered family and many friends or a country with a good family and millions of fish in the sea who can become my friends.. so.. which is it?? i cant decide very easily.